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He Asked Us To Adopt Him: A Year Later

A year ago, a young man asked for adoption. His story of foster care, setbacks, and finally finding a home is truly inspiring.

5 viewsยท5 min readยทJun 12, 2026

It all started on an Easter Sunday. A young man, who had been in the foster system for nearly a decade, pulled his girlfriend's brother aside. He had a simple, yet profound, request: he wanted them to adopt him.

The couple, though touched, explained they didn't have the means at the time. But they promised to do everything they could to stay a constant presence in his life. Little did they know how true that promise would become.

A Promising Start,

Then a Harsh Reality

Months later, the young man was set to be adopted by a seemingly perfect family. They had a big house, pets, and the picture-perfect suburban dream. They met the family on his birthday in July and were excited for him.

This dream, however, quickly faded. The young man, having spent nine years in foster care, struggled with anger and defiance. He lacked healthy coping skills, sometimes resulting in outbursts. The adoptive family had been warned about these challenges but seemed to brush them aside.

The

Abandonment and a Dire Situation

By October, things took a turn. The family, after avoiding visits, suddenly called off the adoption. They claimed he was too much to handle. Without any proper approval, they sent him to a military-style boarding school for troubled youth. It felt less like a school and more like a prison.

The situation was worse than they imagined. The family had arranged for the young man to be at a park after school. While he was there, his caseworker arrived. The family told the caseworker it was an emergency and packed all his belongings into the caseworker's car. They barely let him say goodbye to the siblings he had grown to care for.

Stepping Up When Others Wouldn't

At this point, it was clear no one else would step up for him. The couple knew they were the only ones truly willing to fight for him. They decided to pursue fostering him themselves.

They began the process immediately. They found a suitable place to live and signed up for foster parenting classes, though they were put on a waiting list. The writer underwent fingerprinting and background checks.

Visits and a

Glimmer of Hope

Every week, they visited him at the boarding school. They reassured him, telling him, "We are working to get you out of here." He had lost most of his hope, but their constant presence offered a small light.

During an overnight visit on Christmas, they finally told him the truth. "We are in the process of getting our licenses to foster you," they explained. His reaction was pure joy. He cried, cheered, and asked if he would be out by his birthday.

"Will I be out by my birthday?"

They confidently said yes, believing they had enough time to make it happen.

Unexpected

Delays and New Challenges

The foster classes were set to start in February. But then, the world changed. The COVID-19 pandemic hit in March, shutting everything down. Visits became impossible, and their connection was limited to phone calls and video chats.

The writer had to leave his job due to the pandemic. His girlfriend, a massage therapist, also had to stop working and began working from home. The promise they made to him about his birthday was missed.

The Long Road to "Home"

Despite the setbacks, the process continued behind the scenes. They completed their classes, filed all the necessary paperwork, and had safety inspections for their apartment. They even got him a new bed and desk.

Then, on the day the story was updated, good news arrived. During a therapy session, the judge signed the Change of Physical Custody. The writer was scheduled to pick him up from the school the very next day. After a long and difficult year, he was finally coming home.

The First Days Home

The first day home was filled with excitement. The young man, now 13, was overjoyed to have access to regular food and familiar comforts. He was used to only having short visits, so he was still in a mode of trying to do as much as possible.

He explored the house, played games with his new foster parents, and enjoyed the freedom. He even joked about "waking up," a testament to how surreal the transition felt for him. It was clear he was adjusting, but the trauma of his past still lingered.

Adjusting to a New Normal

Bedtime presented its own set of challenges. His prescribed melatonin helped for a while, but he woke up from a nightmare, fearing he was still at the school. He had trouble settling down, needing a nightlight and a rearranged room.

He even rolled out of bed, prompting his foster father to push the bed against the wall. Later, a nosebleed added to the nighttime struggles. His foster father, understanding his own past struggles with insomnia at that age, eventually trusted him to fall asleep on his own.

A Future Filled with Hope

Despite the difficulties, the couple remained undeterred. They were committed to providing him with a stable and loving home. They shared the story with their parents, who were amazed and supportive of their efforts.

The outpouring of love and support from others who read their story was overwhelming. It showed that even in difficult times, kindness and determination can lead to a happy ending. This is a story about resilience, second chances, and the true meaning of family.

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